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Unfriended on Facebook – Compliment or Diss?

Posted on | October 29, 2008 | 9 Comments

So I friend requested a jeweler in the Midwest, has a big luxury store, Rolex, Cartier, the whole deal. He also likes music and is a third generation family business, like me. I said that in my request and an hour later he accepted. Then I look on my page the next day and I’m no longer friends with him. Of course the first reaction I had was, wtf? Then I thought about it. There are a few reasons that I can think of why he said yes and then no:

1) He thinks he’s too good for me. He’s got a big fancy store – I’m just a young punk.

2) He’s in his fifties, older and did it by accident.

3) He’s sees me as a threat – taking his customers away through the internet.

4) He didn’t like my facebook page – maybe the girls in bikinis offended him.

Well, I like to think it was #3. If so, he’s missing the boat. He could learn from me as I could from him. In the jewelry biz, a lot of guys are very secretive about their business. They don’t want to give away trade secrets, don’t want to share information, learn from their competition. In the digital world, it seems that everyone is willing to share ideas, through meetings, summits, trade shows, blogs, facebook, twitter, etc.

So what’s the next move? Should I ask him why he dissed me – or should I let his path cross mine one day and see what he has to say? Please comment and tell me what you would do…


  • I’d give the dude a second chance. But that’s just me. I’ve been unfriended a total of, I think, three times. The first was a mistake, the second two were intentional, AFAIK. Mostly it was political crap, I think, and I had to rock the boat once too many times.

    It’s also possible he doesn’t get the ‘rules’ of the internet, i.e. openness leads to networking leads to business… but what are you gonna do.

  • Ron

    I would say forget about it. Some people use facebook to network and some use it to socialize. It probably doesn’t matter. I’ve been unfriended by a couple people that I actually know and run into occasionally and it’s not too big of a deal, and this is some guy you’ve never met (which might be the reason he declined). I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it.

  • ron

    Thanks – he actually just requested to be in a jewelers group that I admin so it might be me being paranoid – I’ll keep you posted…

  • Tanya

    while i have no insight for you unfortunately (being a teenage girl with no thought of business), i also have some questions about defreinding. a good friend of mine, who is admittedly a very big flirt despite his girlfriend whom he claims he is “in love with”, keeps defriending me. what is more, he will refriend me days later. and the cycle keeps starting/stopping with no clues to either way. helppp!!!